On being depressed versus having depression

There needs to be a sharp realization that one is incorrect to say they have depression.  Depression is not an item or character flaw that one has like one has a cold or something.  Depression is a life experience,  a very human one.  Depression is typically roped in with the act of becoming something or perhaps more accurately put, failing to become who you truly are.  One of my favorite definitions of depression is “life unlived,” or unlived life however it best suits you.  I find this to be extraordinarily true.

I am afraid people make the mistake of placing depression outside of themselves.  The doctor and treatment protocols only reinforce this tragic error.  For if this was actually the case, the individual would be helpless unless they sought proper external help.  False!!  One must realize their depression is inherent and outsourcing their misery is only adding to the problem.  Now there are two people working on your issue while only you can understand your own truth.

Depression is an existential crisis of the most personal variety.  It usually signals a poignant change is needed your life – whether it be a career move, finding a new environment to live or change your perspective on things.  Regardless, a call for personal revolution is being heeded right at you and thus you better respond intuitively which definitely means do NOT outsource this by any means.  I am not saying to keep it all to yourself, I encourage speaking with close friends and family members, but not in the mode of dumping your issue onto them in a vain attempt to relieve yourself of your duties.

Be mindful and follow your heart, a massive change is due and you are the only one fit to make it happen!

One love,


PS – All thoughts and comments are greatly appreciated (as always)!!  Thanks for reading.


14 thoughts on “On being depressed versus having depression”

  1. you make a good point. if people are “outsourcing” their issues they might end up feeling helpless and self pity.

    also, relying on others to make choices for you, like what meds to take, or if you need to go the hospital, can lead to bad choices for you. one needs to take as much responsibility as possible for treating their illness.

    thanks for writing this, it’s good to read. 🙂

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    1. Thank you! Yes I believe a gigantic disservice is done when one is led to rely on others for their issue. Granted, it may not be “their fault,” but that is neither here nor there. The problem is theirs and they ought to own it, so to speak. Even meds are but a stepping stone to a greater awareness of being, and should be avoided if possible. Granted for some cases they have a role, but certainly not in the mass numbers being pushed on people of all ages and stages in the US especially.

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      1. yes! i am living proof that meds can have appalling side effects…my memory, my balance, clumsiness, confusion, inability to concentrate, etc etc. however, i’m also living proof, literally, that meds are necessary.

        a lot of people they give powerful meds to, probably should not have so much, or not at all. talk therapy can do the trick for a lot of people, as well as things like mindfulness and deep breathing, exercising, being out in the sun, having a good support system, and on and on.

        my dad had an injury in his shoulder that took a really long time to heal. he felt depressed, not surprisingly, but didn’t have any past experience with depression. his doctor prescribed prozac about a week after the injury. that really pissed me off! my dad wasn’t clinically depressed and he had a specific reason for it. of course, when he healed up his moods were fine. gah!


      2. very possibly true. i think it’s ok for people to take meds, the problem is often that the doctors over medicate people. i know with my psychiatrist, every time i have a crisis or just am not doing too well, she prescribes something new or increases the dose of something i’m already taking. :/


      3. yes. sometimes i think a more eastern attitude would be better…mindfulness, meditation, deep breathing, acupunture….etc.

        western doctors have good ideas, and medications that help, but they treat the brain, the illness.

        i think the better attitude is to treat one’s whole self, body, mind, heart, and soul. perhaps a combination of both would be best. 🙂


  2. You absolutely nailed it. This is an important piece of advice that all the experts seem to miss every time. You’ve managed to articulate this extremely succinctly as well, this is also a brilliant piece of writing.

    I agree with you 100%. There is a difference between dealing with the symptoms and getting to the source. Meds only help to alleviate symptoms, the same with seeking support from your friends and family. Even if you get all the help in the world, ultimately the onus is on you to face your demons, that is how to tackle the source of the problem.

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